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Why this is the most important Valentine card you’ll send this year…
Valentine's Day is often a time when we focus on our love for others - buying cards, flowers and decadent treats to show our affection. But this year, why not turn that love inward and show it to someone who deserves it just as much: YOU!
By Leighton Atchison-Warne
3 min read
Now hear me out!
I know the idea of sending yourself a Valentine's card might seem like something your 8-year-old self might have done, but it really is a powerful exercise in self-love and self-appreciation. One thing I'm definitely guilty of is allowing self-doubt and negative self-dialogue creep into my thoughts when I'm stressed or anxious. It's something that I'm working hard on noticing - but I found this idea online and whenever I'm feeling a bit out of sync, I write myself a letter. Sometimes it's a short note, other times it's more like an essay - but I find it useful, and so I thought with Valentine's Day approaching, I'd share this idea as a great way to show yourself a little self-love, too.
I must confess that I do have a slight addiction to stationery goods - so I don't need much of an excuse to buy a nice card and use my favourite pen! But, if you'd rather, you can just use a sheet of paper. It doesn't really matter - what matters most is what you write on the page.
Start with gratitude
I always like to begin by thanking myself. Think of a moment when you've achieved something that you thought you'd never conquer (however big or small) - write something like 'thanks for pushing through those hard days when it all seemed impossible'. Gratitude is important as it sets a warm, affirming tone for your letter.
Focus on strengths
Think about what you're really good at. It might be that you're a great listener, or super resilient, or maybe you're creative or kind. Write these down and celebrate yourself. This isn't about being arrogant, it's about realising your uniqueness.
Embrace vulnerability
One of the most important aspects of self-love is accepting your whole self (yes, even the bits where you still have some room to grow). Be honest with yourself - but not harsh. Recognise your challenges and frame them with some compassion. "I know it feels like I'm not making progress, but I'm proud of myself for trying, and the more I do, the easier it'll become".
End with a promise
Close your letter by making a commitment to yourself. What are you going to do to continue nurturing your self-love? Maybe it's about setting some boundaries, or finally scheduling that coffee with a friend, or committing to exercising a few times a week. Make a promise to yourself - and stick to it!
Some handy tips for writing your letter...
Find a quiet moment - choose a time when you won't be disturbed. Light a candle, choose some soft music to create a calming ambience.
Don't force it - if words aren't coming naturally to you, come back to it later. Or try writing some prompts to help you get started - ask yourself "what would I say to a friend if they were me?".
Keep it somewhere special - some people like to throw the letter away once it's written, but I prefer to keep them safe in a special box. I find it useful to go back to them from time to time when I need a boost - and often it's surprising to realise how far you've come.
So, this Valentine's Day, take the time to write to yourself with the same love and care you'd show someone else. I promise you; you'll be amazed at how transformative it can be.
Leighton Atchison-Warne
Leighton is Co-Founder and Brand Director at Nature's Journey. With a long career in the wellbeing and beauty industry, he's passionate about sharing his knowledge with our community.
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